Tuesday, June 26, 2012

The Mind of a Woman: beautifully dangerous

Last Sunday in the first session of the Inner Healing course, we talked about the uniqueness of a woman's brain, not just the way culture has shaped us, but even our basic biological differences.  To start the healing of inner wounds, you have to start with you, who you are, what you feel and why you find yourself reacting the way you do.

There are beautiful gifts that God has instilled in women, that can even be seen in the scientific study of our brains.  Our center for communication, for example, is far more developed than in men.  Our abilities to sense the needs and emotions of others around us are critical skills for mothers who are dealing with children who can't speak yet, for adolescents who don't understand their emotions, and generally for connecting with our neighbors and coworkers socially.

But these have so often been twisted and used against us.  Women with the gift of gab can turn it into a weapon to hurt and insult, gossip and manipulate so artfully it's hard to even catch it when it happens.  Our gift of sensitivity can be so overstimulated by past hurts and disappointments that we become convinced that it's going to happen again, and begin to act on emotions rather than fact.  We put up walls, we hurt others before they hurt us, we hide in fear, we lower our standards in relationships because we are convinced that we don't deserve better.  We perpetuate our inner pain instead of heal it.

Wait a minute - the reason why I have inner wounds are because of what others have done to me.  If they hadn't hurt me/let me down/accused me/rejected me/misled me... then I'd be just fine.  It's their fault.  They have to make it right. 

Turning back time is impossible, and waiting for someone who offended you to finally apologize and undo all the negative things that they have done, will probably keep you waiting an eternity.  You don't have time to waste waiting for people or circumstances to change to believe in your healing.  The work has to begin with you first, right now.  It comes through intelligent decisions, practical changes, and allowing the power of God to flow in you.

Learn, and pray with us every Sunday afternoon at SiLC, Houston during these 4 weeks of Inner Healing for Women!

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4 comments:

Divya said...
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Divya said...

These characteristics of us women that you shared with us in these courses, helped me to understand myself better, my sisters and my students. I could retrace so many decisions I made based on how we as women react to people and situations. Actually today I experienced one of my students use her power of words to humiliate her brother. At that very moment I remembered what we talked about the woman's brain and her ability to use words. I could understand it so much better and work to teach them how to deal with the anger they have and the need for affection they feel.

Anonymous said...

Hello Mrs. Evelyn. This article offers a profound insight into a woman's delicate intellectual suitcase. The things discussed here about women are very helpful so we can understand ourselves better as women, and with the awareness brought about by this knowledge, we can act more wisely. Thank you very much. -Melody H, UCKG Phil

mariteszuleta said...

Hello Mrs.Evelyn,
Thank you for this message,
Im learning from it..
You don't have time to waste waiting for people or circumstances to change to believe in your healing. The work has to begin with you first, right now. It comes through intelligent decisions, practical changes, and allowing the power of God to flow in you.
This is very true Mrs.Evelyn,the changes always start in our inner healing and we should allow the power of God to flow in us..Kisses